I saw an advert on TV quite some time ago which used the words “I can” and this advert inspired me to put the question to our dwellers to see, what they CAN do….
Here are some of their answers.
I sang in a choir (a hearing one), played clarinet to grade 8 and the obvious one that most people seem to be shocked about “Oooohhhhh my gawd! You can driiiive! Cleevverrr!”
My friends think I can do everything and even things I say I would find hard to do because of my hearing loss, they’re the ones telling me: “Why not, go for it”, so I guess I’m lucky. However, years ago, some of my family members and relatives seemed to think that it was “amazing” that I had got a university degree (as if deaf meant stupid) and my sis in law once told my mum that I was “lucky” to get a good man as a husband, due to my hearing loss!
I had a similar experience – my husband is hearing and someone in his family said he ‘must find it hard’ with a deaf girlfriend (this was very early on) We’re all people – hearing or deaf it doesn’t matter, some people have strange/misguided ideas about relationships and equality. I tend not to think in terms of ‘I can do this despite being deaf’ – in my eyes, I think being deaf has given me more determination. Life is tough for most people, I think everyone has potential and it is often what we do with it and the resources we have that make the difference between ‘I can’ and ‘I can’t’.
I’ve had hearing people say to me ‘You’re so inspiring, being deaf and doing a degree!’ and…. ‘how can you hear music?’. I am a singer and a musician because I can.
I’ve met some people who seem shocked to learn that deaf people can dance.
I had a boss who shifted my mindset from can’t do to can do, now I’m talking on phones, gibbering at Portuguese in work, smiling a lot more and having fun!
My old school told my mother that I would not be able to do music or French?! I did both in the end, at Mary Hare School.
I was told I couldn’t rock climb once… because I was deaf (said by a professional climber)
I was told at 16 that I couldn’t go to university as I was deaf but I went to four in the end.
I didn’t go to Uni – I was often asked why with sympathetic looks “Was it because you are deaf and you would find it difficult?”, “ No, I chose to travel….”
I couldn’t sign 3 years ago however now I can have a conversation in sign language.
I can choose when I don’t want to hear. 😉
I have friends who kept relying on people to help them, I told them that they could do it themselves. They assumed that because people were there for them, they felt they couldn’t do it themselves. I decided to show them that they CAN do it.
Empower yourselves, because you CAN and you WILL.. 🙂
Positivity rules, what else CAN deaf people do?
~ SJ (Sara Jae)
(May you now realise, where the inspiration for the #ICAN posts came from.) 🙂